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I'm sorry for the way I responded to what Allie said you told her. I still stand behind everything I said, but I want to apologize for the way I said it; I'm sorry for being so harsh.
If you need to tell people that our marriage was a business arrangement so you can cope with ending it the way you did, that's fine. I will continue to remember the good times of our marriage instead of the bad, and that means that I will always remember our last three years of marriage as the perfect years, when we finally got everything right!
I will always be sorry that you and J don't have a relationship, and my last words of advice on this are that if you want a relationship with your son, the best way to do that is to not try to be his father at this late date, but just be his friend. Also, never give him anything expecting him to thank you for it. If you give him something, give it to him because it makes you happy just to give it to him, without ever expecting him to say thank you. And accept the fact that he and Allie have health issues (mental as well as physical); don't get your feelings hurt if they can't get together with you as planned because one or both is too tired or isn't feeling well.
I have always tried to facilitate your relationship with him, but I can no longer do so. It always makes me sad when I hear about families having bad relationships, or no relationship at all, so I really hope you and J can find a comfortable rapport.
I refuse to carry around anger toward you or hurt because of what you said and did, so my wish for you is that you let go of any feelings of sadness or responsibility you may carry for the way you ended us, then and now. I'm fine, I hope you will be too.
I never wanted for you to be unhappy, so I wish you happiness.
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Without knowing the details it seems like a very painful and stressful time. I truly hope you are ok. I think its good that you are letting go of the anger and contempt you had in your earlier letter. While you may have moved on from your ex he will always be part of your life even if it is a passing memory that will grow old with time. I think you are doing the right thing by releasing your anger and moving on with your own life. Very inspiring!
ReplyDeleteThis def sounds like your over it but in a nice way. Great letter.
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